Kill Your Weakness
It' not your childhood. It's not your genetics. It's your refusal to face the mirror.
There’s been plenty of times I’ve felt weak. Looking in the mirror and seeing someone I didn’t recognize because of it. Time passing by, telling myself over and over that tomorrow we get it right. Tomorrow, we go all in! Only for 8 months to pass staring at the same person. No change.
The motivation hits like a wave, the surge to conquer takes over and you’re ready to go. But without systems in place. Without you doing everything necessary 100% of the time, it loops right back to you, in front of the mirror again wondering what happened.
I’ve been there. Many times.
Every man carries something soft inside. Excuses, shame, laziness or insecurity. It’s normal, but normal is the problem.
You’re not here to stay normal. You’re here to become lethal, mentally, physically and spiritually.
To do that, you’ll need to kill the weak version of yourself.
And in this post, I’m going to show you how.
Identify the Source
Before you go full on attack mode killing anything, you need to plan out your execution and home in on your target.
Sit down, grab your notebook and ask yourself:
What do I keep hiding from?
What patterns keep repeating?
Where do I avoid discomfort?
Answer these 3 questions truthfully and all out, get as detailed as you possibly can. All we do is lie to ourselves to make us feel good. Lay it out and be honest. No one else will. Your wife will say “I love how you look” as you sit there and continue to gain pound after pound. Can barley walk up the stairs or perform like you used to. Get real with yourself, now or never.
Weakness thrives in silence. In the dark where we keep it locked up, so no one sees. The facade begins to fade as you come to grips with reality. You’re weak.
February 8th, I left for FT Hood Texas to begin my mobilization for the Joint Special Operations Command. I weighed 226lbs at 5’ 8” looking like I swallowed a beach ball. I barley passed the physical fitness test by 2-3 minutes (females were beating me). While in Texas I had to stay back because 9 of us were going to a different location for 1.5 weeks. I was literally eating frosted honey buns (700 Cals), Hot Cheetos and a diet Dr. Pepper (health) nightly. I was in the worst shape of my life, could barely get up the 4 flights of stairs to go to my room without wheezing. If I was with others, I had to do the old fake yawn to get some air in my lungs. I was physically weak. Mentally weak but never wanted to face it. Until I understood that it was only going to get worse. I had to make a choice, not just for me but for my family as well. I had my daughter being born that year as well. I had to kill my weak self. That day I decided to snap a picture of myself and plan out my execution to become better.
Expose the Lie
Every insecurity is tied to a lie you’ve accepted as truth. You’ve rewired your brain to believe everything you say!
“I’m not good enough.”
“I don’t have time.”
“I’m just not built like that.”
None of that is real.
It’s protective fiction.
Expose it. Rip it out.
I was on the no time train for so long. I would be “busy” but melt into the couch watching Netflix or scrolling on my phone for endless amounts of time. All of that compounded, wasted time led to me blowing up, no energy, no drive. And the more I fed myself the excuses the easier it was to accept them. After a while I wouldn’t even need the excuse. Training and being better wasn’t even in my mind. I was accepting who I was. Every time I would bring up “I’m getting so fat, or we need to get back to a routine” the wife would follow it with well I like how you are, I always love you… which is great, I love her love, but it was not beneficial to me whatsoever. I needed the reality check. I needed the slap in the face that would wake me up out of that haze. The only person that will get you to change is you. Quit living these false stories that you feed yourself. Break free and “LOCK IN” the only way to move forward is to begin. I’ve had to “start over” over and over. But the key is to not quit. Put your goal at the forefront of your mind and dial in after it.
Replace Weakness with Action
You don’t “overcome” weakness. You outwork it.
You make it irrelevant through movement.
You train harder. You speak up. You lead. You discipline your emotions.
You act like the man you want to become before you feel like him.
Confidence isn’t a feeling; it’s the reward for doing hard things consistently.
I don’t want to wake up at 0345 but I know I have to. I have set in place daily systems to guide me closer to my goals. I am very system oriented. Being in the military; getting on a schedule/routine is such a great thing to keep me organized and consistent.
I have a folding treadmill at home that gets worked every day. 0345 I’m up. By 0400 I am getting my steps in usually an hour then head to the gym for a 45min-1-hour workout. Focusing on strength progression. My meals are ever the same. Nitro Cold Brew in the AM by lunch its marinated chicken and dinner is a combination of Beef/Chicken with a starch. Desert will be Greek yogurt with warmed up frozen mixed berries. Simple, effective and the same thing to push me towards my goals.
Now don’t get me wrong I will go out with friends, have a drink here and there. But my systems are set up to allow myself to have the ability to stray now and then. I hit 15-20k steps average daily. (Treadmill at my desk too)
You will need to build systems in your own life that give you the edge. Move the treadmill into the living room, family night you’re getting a nice easy walk in. Stock the fridge with fruit and snack on veggies when you want some Doritos. Hit the gym right after work so you have no time to sit down and relax. (Excuses are built when movement stops)
Starve the Old Identity
You can’t keep feeding the habits of the man you’re trying to leave behind.
Cut the behaviors. Kill the patterns. Burn the bridges.
No more scrolling at night:
This has been such a big issue for me, with being on X/YT/FB/IG and all the other platforms I tend to get sucked into a time waste. Optimizing and having things scheduled to go off is the best way to run this account. I have better things to do than feed myself the garbage social media has turned into. Grab a book, feed yourself something that you can take into the world and teach others. Start a course, get outside.
No more half-assed workouts:
Big lesson here for me, many days it was just like punching in and out, go in hit the workout and dip. “I did my workout” not a drop of sweat, heart rate barley went up. Get into the gym with intention to break yourself down. Outside the gym we build it back stronger and better.
No more venting to people who can’t help
If it fed the weak version of you, starve it. A lot of time we like that herd mentality, if I’m screwing up, I know others are and can relate to my situation. Weak mindedness, kill the bs Debby downer talk. Everything that comes out of your mouth needs to be uplifting and positive. Negative talk whether it be self or about others bodes negatively on your subconscious. Become a man that only build and lifts others up. You’re stronger, better than a weak man spewing negativity about others.
Many of the people you speak with will not understand your journey, they will want to keep you down with them. No ill intentions but it’s always better to have someone to make excuses with. I’ve done it, been a part of it. Negativity is no longer something I focus on; it’s not gone of course but train your mind to seek the good in everything. Stress will destroy you quicker than anything.
Build Daily Proof
Every day is a chance to earn another rep for the new man.
Track your wins. Keep score. Build momentum.
You don’t kill your weakness once. You kill it every day by proving to yourself that you’re no longer him.
This is what builds trust. This is what builds quiet confidence.
Now in life all I do is track and assess. Metrics are such a great thing to see. We can literally track (most) anything these days. I’m tracking:
Sleep
Steps
Workout
Food
Bloodwork
Hormones
You build a collective and review it constantly. Just like in business you need to be plugged into everything you do. Not losing weight? Did my steps increase/decrease this week? Has my food source swayed? Did I eat out more this week?
Everything that is tracked can be looked back on to assess and fix for the future. Understanding where you are is just as important. Just like when I’m at the shooting range. Tight shot group but when I’m training soldiers, we assess what they did last time and use that for feedback. Was their breathing off, did their trigger squeeze go fast or slow. Once we understand what factors play a part in how things move us forward, we can adjust as needed.
End
No one’s coming to rescue you.
No one’s going to kill your weakness for you.
You either do it now, or you drag it with you for the rest of your life.
This is about freedom.
From self-doubt. From wasted time. From emotional chaos.
When you kill the weak version of you
You finally make room for the real one to lead.
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